This spring, couples everywhere have been faced with the agonizing decision to proceed or postpone their wedding due to any number of unforeseen circumstances. The first thing I want to say is it's okay to be sad/angry/frustrated/disappointed. Please make sure to feel your feelings, and if you need to - grieve. The average engagement is about 15 months long, so many of these events have been in the planning process for a year or more and it's hard watching your fairy tale wedding suddenly become unattainable.
I believe that if you're feeling up for it, you should still celebrate your "original" wedding date! Here are a few ideas on how to celebrate the day if you've opted to postpone your nuptials:
1) Have your cake (and eat it, too!) - Share something sweet with your sweetie! Order cupcakes, or even a miniature version of your wedding cake from your baker to share on your special day. If you're up for a challenge, try making your own cake from scratch!
2) Taste test your signature cocktails - Share a toast to new beginnings, and to each other. Even if you're not having the big wedding today, you still have each other and that is something worth celebrating. Keep it simple with traditional champagne, or go for something different with a new mixed drink! HGTV has some great ideas here!
3) Go for a spin - Try out your first dance with your fiance. Even if it's not a spectacularly choreographed dance number, sharing a sweet slow dance with someone you love is always nice.
4) Exchange Lover Letters - Use the time to craft a love letter to your soon to be spouse. Tell them all of the things you love about them, all of the things you hope for your future, and all of the things they do that you are grateful for. Refer to these letters often, particularly when wedding planning has you stressed and cranky.
5) Hold a small, private ceremony - Say your vows! Say the words, out loud, even if it is just to each other. Even if it isn't official on paper, it's okay to mark this occasion in a special way. Or if you don't want to wait until your new date, ask your officiant if they would be open to performing the ceremony with just you, your fiance, and 2 witnesses. Don't worry, you can still do a ceremony when your new date comes around if you'd like! It will just already be official.
6) Plan a photoshoot – These are truly unprecedented times, and really, who doesn’t love an excuse to get dressed up (or not!) and capture some amazing moments. Bonus – you can use the images to create a sign in book or frame for your wedding day!
7) Host a virtual party with friends - Complete with dinner, drinks, dancing, and speeches! Take some time to hang out virtually with your wedding party via Zoom or Skype. Even if it's not the reception you had in mind, it's still a lot of fun and a great way to lift your spirits.
8) Get Creative – Make a Special Keepsake Together – a Scrapbook, a painting, sand art, pottery, or a special time capsule to help you both remember these unprecedented times, whatever suits your fancy. Then when your new wedding day comes around you can display your artwork for all of your friends and family to see.
How are you celebrating if you've had to postpone your wedding? Tell us in the comments!
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